Being JUDGED..!!!

We all go through that one phase in life where we're being judged by someone.

Usually, by the one's who know you the least. But still... It becomes so necessary for them to express there opinion.

You know, that is the least they can do for you. "THEY HAVE THIS CONCERN FOR YOU." 

Even though they've never been in your shoes.

They know it because you told them.

But,

It hurts...hurts a lot when such things comes from the ones whom you trust the most, with whom you've shared all your worries, and secrets.

It is possible that they're genuinely concerned and care about you.

Yet you get hurt, disheartened, and what not.

Mainly, you become angry on them.

All that you feel is ANGER and HURT.

This feeling is so strong that you'd think of staying away from them or avoiding them, and add all the negative feelings and emotions, and act accordingly.

This all happens for just one QUESTION in the mind--

"HOW CAN THIS PERSON OF ALL CAN THINK OF ME LIKE THIS OR SAY ME SOMETHING WHICH IT'S SO HURTFUL TO ME?"

And...

Then...

We stop communicating with that very person.

So,

Hey there,

I'd like to ask you to do few things during this point of time 

One, 

Go and talk to that very person directly and sort things out..

Let'em know that few statements used by them have affected you.

Two,

Now that it's conveyed, it depends on your mutual understanding that whether you two want to continue with your relationship or not.

Three,

If possible give another chance to that person and your relationship.

Because, it is possible that that person genuinely cares for you and wants you to do best in your life but just the way things took place gave the whole conversation a wrong direction.

And

If this is the case..

THEN don't give up on the person or the bond or the relationship you share with them.

If you DO SO...

Then..

YOU'RE doing the exact same thing with that person which took place with you on the first hand..

That is..

'JUDGING THEM..!!!'

Don't do that...

NO ONE LIKES TO BE JUDGED.

ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS WHICH IS NOT INTENDED.

"ACCEPT THEM AS THEY ARE..."

Because everyone has a story..

A story that you're unaware of..

And every story has at least two sides..

So,

Be empathetic,

Be humble,

Be kind,

Be genuine,

Be loving,

Be caring, 

Be smart.

The world needs it..

As it is said:

" What goes around, comes around."

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